What I Would Tell My 15 Year Old Self

Life today is a lot different to when I was in my mid-teens. Whilst angst seems to be a mandatory stage in every teenagers life, I suffered from what I now recognize as serious depression. I was an outcast as school, I did a lot of stupid things, and I hated both myself and life in general. You could say that I experienced the sour during these years, which is perhaps why life tastes so sweet today. In this sense, my experience really has made me the person I am today. I have no desire to change the past, but I do hope that some teenagers out there who are confused, angry or depressed find some value in this article. So then, here are 5 pieces of advice I would tell my younger teenage self: Stop Worrying I honestly can’t believe how much I used to worry. I worried about what people thought of me, that I would never have sex, what people were saying about me, that I was ugly….. you get the idea. I have since learned that all of this worry was unnecessary. That’s right, all of it. Be True to Yourself Being a teenager is tough. It is a stage of your life where you are trying to find your place in the world, and yet there are so many pressures to act or think in a particular way. I made the mistake of trying to be a person I thought others would like. I honestly tell you that this didn’t work. Apart from not being true to myself, people saw through my charade. Be...
How to Be Annoying

How to Be Annoying

“You never know just how you look through other peoples’ eyes” – this is a line from a well known song when I was growing up (Pepper by the Butthole Surfers for those interested). There is definitely a lot of truth to this. That said, there are some things that, if you do them, are guaranteed to piss people off. Now just to be clear here, the following are things I recommend you don’t do. And one more thing: I’m certainly not perfect, and there are a few things on this list that I’m guilty of doing. If anything, writing this list has helped me identify some areas I can work on. Here then are 10 traits that are sure to annoy others: 1. Be Cheap Frugal is good, cheap is bad. Now, if you are cheap and no one else is affected, obviously there is no harm in that. But if you are cheap in certain social situations, such as going out to dinner with friends, then you are sure to get under others’ skin. 2. Break Your Promises Trust is a cornerstone of happy and healthy relationships. Break a promise once, and you will probably be forgiven. Do it again, and you may just find that the relationship is permanently damaged. I am always extremely careful before making promises, and I suggest you do the same. 3. Be Late Time is a valuable commodity, and if you don’t respect others’ time then you will quickly lose friends and infuriate people . Sure, sometimes things happen and being late is unavoidable. But I’m sure you know people who...
How To Enjoy Life Every Day

How To Enjoy Life Every Day

The “Every Day Mindset” is a simple, yet extremely powerful, way in which to live your life. What is this mindset? Put simply, it is a mindset that remembers that this day you are currently living will only ever happen once, and it therefore encourages you to make the most of it. It is not about recklessly living life as if there is no tomorrow. The future is important to plan for, but it is important not to obsess about it to the extent that you neglect the present. Remember, the only way to get to the future is through a series of todays. Since this Every Day Mindset has changed my life, I would like to share with you 3 specific ways in which I apply it: 1. Enjoy Every Day I choose to enjoy every day. I wake up early at 5am because I am excited about the day ahead, and throughout the day I try to maintain a positive attitude. Yes, sometimes “shit happens” and I don’t have a good day. But I figure if I at least try to have fun and be happy there is a good chance I will enjoy myself. What I am particularly interested in is ways to enjoy my time at work. Most people know how to enjoy their leisure time, but many people struggle to imagine being happy at work. If this is you, here are a few quick tips: Do what you love: this should be your ultimate career goal. I know it’s easier said than done, but just remember it is possible. Make friends with your co-workers:...

5 Essential Personal Development Podcasts

Podcasts are basically pre-recorded audio programs you can download. The great thing about podcasts is that you can download an episode and begin listening to it in just minutes either on your computer or portable listening device (iPod, Blackberry, etc). This means you can listen to them anytime, anywhere (eg while jogging, driving, working out or taking a walk). Below are 5 of my favorite personal development podcasts. Enjoy! 1. Guy Finley Guy is a best-selling author and well-known radio presenter. He speaks on a range of issues, including relationships, fear, addiction, stress/anxiety, peace, happiness, and freedom. These podcasts are guaranteed to stretch your mind. Click here to view Guy Finley’s collection of podcasts. 2. Robin Sharma Robin is one smooth talker – I love listening to his voice. He backs this up with some of the most inspiring, yet down-to-earth, advice you will come across. Whilst he doesn’t seem to record many new podcasts these days, there are 35 podcasts available free on his page. Click here to visit Robin Sharma’s collection of podcasts. 3. Steve Pavlina I was actually introduced to podcasting through Steve. Like Robin Sharma, Steve seems to have slowed down with recording new podcasts. That said, he has 20 podcasts available on his page and each of them is a goldmine of wisdom. Click here to visit Steve Pavlina’s collection of podcasts. 4. Awareness and Consciousness The Awareness and Consciousness Podcast is dedicated to teaching self-awareness and how to live in an emotional state of happiness. Gary has some wonderful insights and is very easy to listen to. Click here to visit the Awareness and Consciousness podcast page....
Review: What’s Your Expiry Date?

Review: What’s Your Expiry Date?

At 18, Patrick Mathieu was told by the top heart surgeons in Canada that he would not live past 30. This news turned out to be the greatest gift he ever received. In his book What’s Your Expiry Date?, Patrick shares his inspiring story of how at an early age he was forced to confront the fact that he would die. You see, Patrick was born with a “bad” heart that has confounded cardiologists since his birth. The death sentence Patrick was given at 18 proved to be a wake up call that forever changed the way he would approach life. This book is packed full with insightful messages. The following are a few of my favorites: Come to Terms With Your Own Death I will die. So will you. Western society seems to have a problem acknowledging death. Industries are devoted to convincing us that we are immortal. For example, there is an endless assortment of cosmetics that promise to reverse the aging process. In Mexico, the people are well known for celebrating a holiday called The Day of the Dead. According to Wikipedia, “the traditional mood for this holiday is bright with emphasis on celebrating and honoring the lives of the dead.” I bring this up only because it shows that death is a fact of life that can be feared and ignored, or it can be accepted and even embraced. In his book, Patrick encourages the reader to comes to terms with their death as soon as possible. He writes, “if we don’t acknowledge death, we run the risk of moving through life always assuming that...