How to Dream Bigger in Spite of Fear

How to Dream Bigger in Spite of Fear

In July of 2012, I decided I wasn’t dreaming big enough. I attended a conference full of people doing amazing things for themselves, for charity, for their families… And I felt an incredible sense of inadequacy. Inadequate because what I felt inside wasn’t matching the actions of my outsides, and all these amazing people I was meeting were showing me that it could be done. My heart was overflowing with emotion, compassion and eagerness; I was just so scared to harness it for fear of rejection or failure. In July, I decided to stop letting fear dictate my inaction, and instead, I began to let it fuel me to take more action. My big dream that I’ve been working to make a reality ever since is detailed at the bottom of this post. Please read on to check out how my refusal to listen to fear is going to fuel me as I gather charity donations across North America, and how you can help inspire hope into thousands of people who want to give up. But first, I want to help you overcome your own fears that are holding you back from achieving an epic reality. I think that we all get caught up in the fear of big dreams because when they fail, they hurt so much more than the smaller dreams. I don’t know about you, but I’ve been crushed and paralyzed by fear way more times than I have by rejection or unachieved dreams. I like to think of fear as an emotional recreation of Carrie’s mother. Remember that movie? Yeah, the one with all the...
Why Your Subconscious Keeps You From Greatness (& What to Do About It)

Why Your Subconscious Keeps You From Greatness (& What to Do About It)

How many times have you gotten right to the precipice of major life change only to fall back into old, comfortable habits, leaving your goals hanging in the ether? For me, it’s been countless. Having fought so hard to overcome clinical depression, OCD and my battle with weight loss, I’ve roller-coastered all over the place. I would start making headway with my positive thinking habits, only to go through a breakup and give up trying entirely because I couldn’t see the forest for the trees. I lost sight of the work I was doing and its results because the pain I was experiencing in that moment blinded me to the possibility of another way to be. I would commit to getting out of a job that made me miserable, only to stop looking when I got a few rejections, scared that I would feel stupid for ever thinking I could get out. I would fight so hard to eat right and exercise 4 days a week, only to slack off when I started seeing results, thinking there was no way I could keep it up for the rest of my life. As the scale crept back up, I would quit my new healthy habits altogether. Every time I seemed to get to that tipping point, it felt like something would shove me full-force right back into my old habits! It’s one of the most frustrating experiences. You know change is possible; other people have done it. As you watch those life-changers achieve those lofty goals, it’s easy to lose sight of how difficult change is.  When we look at...
How to Make Space for Happiness: Fire Your Friends

How to Make Space for Happiness: Fire Your Friends

I remember it very distinctly. I was in the car with my best friend whom I had just picked up, and I was giddy with excitement. Over the past month or two, I had talked her through some dates gone bad and tried to lift her up to remember how great she was. I was always so happy and supportive when she told me when one went well. I had gone through a terrible breakup 6 months prior and had just started to date again when out of nowhere, I met a man who was different from all the others. I knew this guy was a keeper, and I was so excited to confide in my best friend all about how I’d finally found someone worth spending time with! After a few minutes of small talk into our car ride, I excitedly blurt out, “Ok, can I dish about this new guy for a second?” As if expecting it, she snidely shot back, “I don’t want to hear every little detail about it!” I was stunned. I had been friends with this girl for the last few years and she would always talk to me about the things she was going through, good and bad, but didn’t want to hear about the exciting news in my life. That’s when I realized, this was a one-sided relationship. I was always doing the listening. I was always bringing her up. I told her how much she upset me by shutting me down like that, and she said she was sorry, but she didn’t change. Actions speak much louder than words in...
From Depression to Happiness: The 4 Steps That Helped to Change My Life

From Depression to Happiness: The 4 Steps That Helped to Change My Life

I always thought happy people were fakers. Growing up with clinical depression and obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), I never knew what it was like to be happy for more than a few moments at a time. I was so used to struggling that I couldn’t imagine a life in which every day was easy. I couldn’t grasp the idea that other people’s happiness could be real. Or maybe I just didn’t want to. Because I didn’t want to burden other people with my depression, I didn’t talk to anyone about it. I tried to act normal. I tried to be like everyone else. I drank heavily and took diet pills to make myself more attractive so that people would concentrate on my outsides (heaven forbid they find out how much was actually wrong with me). I felt trapped by my disorders, by everything I thought was wrong with me. It got to the point of holding so much in, I didn’t think I could handle it anymore. In 2005, I tried to kill myself. Thankfully, my roommate stopped me. I was admitted to an inpatient program against my will the next day. In the mental ward, I had no freedom. I was forced to be at a group meeting at a certain time. I was told to go to sleep at a certain time. I couldn’t even choose whether I took medication or not. Being truly trapped was the most horrible feeling I have ever experienced. When I was released, I felt enlightened. I had been taking my freedom for granted. Out here in the free world, I have...