Discovering Dad and the Past Perfect

Discovering Dad and the Past Perfect

Years ago, during a recapitulation of my life, I examined every memory I had of my relationship with my father.  I looked at us fearlessly and was, at the end of my examination, finally at peace with Dad.  My explanation of Dad as a father and as a man was loving but...
How to Know What You Must Learn Next

How to Know What You Must Learn Next

“Every man on this planet is taking his initiation in love.”                     – Florence Shinn, The Game of Life and How to Play It Initiations in love can be painful because they require that we learn disturbing things about ourselves, that we...
Planning for the Life You Want

Planning for the Life You Want

Continuous effort—not strength or intelligence—is the key to unlocking our potential. – Winston Churchill I haven’t always been as intentional about the life I want to live as I am now. And I haven’t always been as successful at getting what I want. Now I know...
Dad, Show Us How to Change

Dad, Show Us How to Change

Fathers can show their children how to change by pursuing their own emergence. But my dad did not know that we are emergent beings in an emergent universe. He didn’t know that our assignment in life is to grow and develop. To emerge. To change. Dad never spoke about...
My Victory Over Fear

My Victory Over Fear

The Origins of a Fear I was the recipient of some bullying as a skinny young kid. One older boy in my neighborhood entertained himself with me occasionally by trapping me in our garage and threatening to beat me up if I tried to get out. Later, tougher kids would...