This week my friend Barrie Davenport launched a new site focused on helping people uncover and live their life passion. I know this is an area many people struggle with, so today I’m thrilled to share with you an interview I recently did with Barrie in which she shares real, practical and actionable strategies for uncovering your life passion. Enjoy!
1. You already have a very successful site at Live Bold and Bloom. Why have you started a new site at BarrieDavenport.com?
When I started Live Bold and Bloom, my goal was to support people in stretching themselves to do more and be more by unhinging from fear and self-limitations. I write about living boldly and offer practical tips for a variety of life areas and situations. I focused some of my writing on life passion, and over time, I saw that people had a hunger for learning how to live passionately – how to find something that would engage them and make them come alive. I was also coaching people around this topic frequently. So I thought I would create a site that addressed this one important area for people – what they can do to uncover the life passion that is within them, and then figure out a way to make that passion a big part of their lives.
2. What is your passion and how did you find it?
My passion is helping other people find their own passions and learn to recreate their lives in such a way that they feel enthusiastic, engaged, and purposeful. I didn’t find this passion until I was in my late 40’s. My oldest daughter was in the midst of training to be a professional ballet dance, and I was driving her 60 miles round trip twice a day to her studio to train. I had to cut way back on my public relations business (my former career) so that I could support her passion. Once she left home, I had all of this time to refocus on my work. But I totally flatlined. I had no enthusiasm for my PR business any longer. I couldn’t make myself ramp up the business again, but I had no idea what I was supposed to do with myself. I went through a period of real despair about it. I’d spent years supporting others in their passions with my PR work and my daughter’s career, but now I felt passionless myself.
I began to take some small actions to find clues to my passion – I took assessments, workshops, read books, researched careers, experimented with various projects. But ultimately I found that I was drawn to the helping professions – specifically coaching. I went back to school to get certified as a personal coach and started a practice. As part of building my new business, I created a blog to promote my work. Then I discovered yet another passion – for blogging, writing, teaching online courses, and interacting with people around the world who are looking to evolve and live better lives.
3. How can someone’s childhood impact their life passion?
It has a huge impact. If your childhood was positive and healthy, if your parents encouraged self-expression, creativity, and experimentation, then you started with a great foundation. And if your parents recognized a strong interest or aptitude in you as a child and encouraged and supported that, then you likely have a leg-up in the life passion department. However, if you had a dysfunctional or difficult childhood, if your parents forced you into certain activities or fields of study, then more than likely, you have repressed many of your early interests and passions. If love and acceptance are tied to your parents’ approval of your choices, then most children do what they must do to win that approval. Then as adults, they are stuck in a career or a lifestyle that is totally inauthentic to them. They are unhappy and restless with no idea how to backtrack and recreate their lives.
4. What are some specific actions people can start doing right away to help them uncover and live their passions?
The very first thing they can do is recognize how valuable the work of finding and living a life passion is. This process can lead you to a complete shift in your quality of life and how you perceive and experience the world. But many people hold themselves back from seeking their passion because they believe the myths and stories they may have heard about life passion. I’ve written a free guide about this called The Passion Myths: 6 Lies Keeping You from Uncovering Your Life Passion.Your readers can download that right now to get started.
Also, another important action is giving yourself the gift of time to pursue finding and living your passion. Most people don’t take this time – they think they might accidentally bump into their passion or it will fall from the sky! But it doesn’t happen that way. It requires self-discovery work, addressing roadblocks, and taking definitive actions to make things happen. Just by carving out an hour or two a week to devote to the process, you can start right away in moving forward toward your passion. And another great action they can take now is to use that time to define their core values. Ultimately, you want your life passion to support and reflect these values. But you need to know what they are first.
5. What are some success stories you’ve had with coaching clients?
I’ve had many success stories, and perhaps many that I don’t know about who are readers of my blog or who have purchased my course. My most notable client is a woman who hired me to help her get out of her 9-5 job and follow her passion to have her own business. In the initial stages of our coaching, she had many roadblocks related to self-esteem. I didn’t understand that because she is so talented and professional. But I was coaching her by phone and hadn’t ever seen her face. I finally looked her up on Facebook and discovered that she was morbidly obese, weighing over 400 pounds. As much as she wanted to move forward in her life, her weight held her back from everything.
Through our work together, she discovered that the weight was the core issue around all of her roadblocks, and I gently challenged her to have just one visit with a personal trainer. She did – and then kept going. She has now lost over 200 pounds, has started her own successful marketing business, has a blog about weight loss and healing, and is in the first romantic relationship of her life. Oh, and she designed my new site. Her name is Stephanie Wetzel, and she is a true inspiration.
6. Is there anything you would like readers of The Change Blog to know?
I’d like them to know that it is possible to find that “something” that makes them come alive again and feel engaged and excited about life. It doesn’t happen overnight, but the process of finding your passion is deeply fulfilling itself. You will learn more about yourself, what you want in life, and what your priorities are. There is no way you can stay the same once you open yourself up to this work.
My goal at BarrieDavenport.com is to provide thorough, practical, useful information that people can apply to their lives and then see real results. My passion is working with people through my articles, books, products, and coaching to help them undertake this life passion journey and reach the other side to the life they envision for themselves. If you have ever seen someone who is living a passionate life, you know how powerful that can be. So don’t stand on the sidelines watching other people live passionately. There is absolutely nothing holding you back from doing the same!
Thanks for the interview Barrie!