How Sharing a Secret Can Gain You Acceptance

How Sharing a Secret Can Gain You Acceptance

There are many ways to live in the closet. You can live in the closet as a gay person, or lesbian, or transgender, or even as someone who suffers from a mental illness. I was one of those people who lived in the closet. I have paranoid schizophrenia and I was able to...
How to Fight Smarter, Not Harder

How to Fight Smarter, Not Harder

“Having your wounds kissed by someone who doesn’t see them as disasters in your soul, but cracks to put their love into, is the most calming thing in this world.”   ― Emery Allen Conflict is inevitable. But we can greatly influence the quality of conflict in our...
Discovering Dad and the Past Perfect

Discovering Dad and the Past Perfect

Years ago, during a recapitulation of my life, I examined every memory I had of my relationship with my father.  I looked at us fearlessly and was, at the end of my examination, finally at peace with Dad.  My explanation of Dad as a father and as a man was loving but...