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How To Be Kind To Yourself

“Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for a kindness” – Seneca

A couple of days ago someone said to me: “Be kind to yourself!” Ever since hearing these words they have been stuck in my head. I have always understood the importance of kindness, but I have always focused on kindness to others. I had never thought about kindness towards myself. It really got me thinking.

I started with how it feels to have someone be kind to you. I know that feeling. It’s warm and cozy and bonding. But I am not the one to evoke that type of feeling in myself. I thought about how it feels to be kind – the type of emotions that surge within you when you are considering another person; care and gentleness. I do not often feel these types of emotions when dealing with myself. This leads me to question whether I am ever pointedly kind to myself and how my life would be different if I specifically paid myself some kind attention.

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The Importance of Setting Life Reminders

The Importance of Setting Life Reminders

If I could kick myself in the ass right now, I would. Last night on my way home from the driving range I was caught for speeding and issued a nasty fine (like golf isn’t expensive enough already…). Unlike my experience in If You Want To Change, Tell the Truth, I was never in any doubt that this was anything but my own fault. I strongly agree with the principle that people should drive within the speed limits, and I put this down to a lapse in concentration. What really annoys me, though, is the fact that this is something I vowed I would never do again after the last time.

The last time was a few years ago, but I still remember it very clearly. I also distinctly remember the following weeks where the care I took driving could have had me nominated for a “Driver of the Year” award. But as these weeks turned into months, I slowly returned to a more “normal” way of driving (still predominantly safe – just more relaxed and, therefore, prone to occasional lapses in concentration).

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Do You Suffer From PDG?

Do You Suffer From PDG?

My personal development journey has had some curious side effects. Since starting on this journey, activities I once enjoyed now give me little pleasure. Or, if I do want to try to enjoy them, I often end up feeling guilty. Some examples are: sleeping in, eating fast food, having a big night out, or watching TV.

What’s going on?

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Wake Up Calls

Wake Up Calls

Every so often an event occurs that drops-kicks us into consciousness and forces us to reflect on the way we are living our lives. These events may occur on the world stage – September 11, Hurricane Katrina, the Tsunami in Southeast Asia – or they may occur on a more personal level – health problems, the death of a loved one, trouble with the law.

It can be very hard, if not impossible, to look at wake up calls in a positive light. Many people died in the tragedies of September 11, Hurricane Katrina and the Southeast Asian Tsunami leaving behind thousands of distraught loved ones. Personal wake up calls, such as health problems and trouble with the law, typically cause us immense pain and difficulty.

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