Photo by Stu Seeger
By Dan Miranda
“True friendship is like sound health, the value of it is seldom known until it is lost.” -Charles Caleb Colton
When somebody says “best friend,” who is the first person to pop into your head? Is it your spouse, your next door neighbor, or even your own pet?
What if no one pops into your head?
There are many reasons why you may not have a best friend. Perhaps you have trouble connecting, you don’t want to label yourself a best friend, you’ve had previous problems with a friend or you simply don’t want one. I’ve been there and done that, and now I would like to share what I learned along the way.
Firstly, I don’t suggest you put up signs all over the place when searching for a best friend. What I do suggest, however, is to always remain open to the possibility of making a new friend. Any person you meet could eventually become someone with whom you interact with constantly and often. It can’t ever hurt to be genuinely nice, and usually this will result in the other person realizing you are a pleasant human being.
If you haven’t had the opportunity to enjoy best friendship, I’ll be the first to tell you: you are missing out. There is really nothing to compare to somebody who connects to you on a level that is stars above the moon. Believe me, I was once unsure how I would be able to make a best friend, but it did happen. And it can happen for you, too!
My skepticism came from thinking that no one had a vast majority of similar traits as me (your best friend doesn’t have to). There was one school night though, about a year ago, where I asked a guy I didn’t know too well a question. He answered it with sincerity and happiness and from there the rest is history. We went cycling, to baseball games and to tennis matches. We’re best friends.
Enough about me though. What you are really doing when you have a best friend is creating a relationship that, hopefully, will last a lifetime. I write about it because it’s one of the many ways to fulfill yourself and create an everlasting bond between you and another human being. The benefits from having somebody close to you include:
- Helping to reveal the best of you.
- Comfort that someone is always there.
- An outlet for information you keep inside.
- Improving your physiological state.
- Taking your social life to new levels.
- The ability to live, laugh and love together.
- A potential partner in crime.
For those of you who do have a best friend in life, who is it? What does he/she mean to you? Are there any particular reasons you enjoy this persons’ company?