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Become Wealthy » Blog Archive » Become Wealth - Happiness — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 13:05:58 +0000

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By: Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome

Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 05:08:35 +0000

@Nea
Yes, we’re wired to think we’re the center of the universe – I think that’s because we live inside our heads isolated from the rest of the world. It’s a biological thing…

By: Nea | Self Improvement Saga

Nea | Self Improvement Saga — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 02:49:43 +0000

Great post! It really is interesting how we, as human beings, tend to make everything about us. It’s wonderful to experience the joy of releasing that counterproductive way of thinking. Thanks for sharing this article.

By: Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome

Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 05:09:22 +0000

@John
My parents taught me that the best revenge is kindness. And yes it works really well as long as your own happiness doesn’t depend on keeping the neighbors happy.

@John
I used to have the same problem with the idea of “letting go of ego” – no way! I like my personality! – but then I learned that it didn’t mean destroying my sense of self – only my need to be dramatic about everything.

I really like your puzzle piece analogy, by the way!

By: John Duffield

John Duffield — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 09:30:14 +0000

“Getting rid of your ego at the door” is good advice Alex. No doubt most of us have a hard time with this as well. I used to think that meant “get rid of your sense of self completely”….as if you’d disappeared….vanished….or…..Holy bad mistakes Batman!…. died. Needless to say that did NOT sound like something I wanted to do. But it doesn’t mean that at all. In essence it means giving up selfishness. To begin dumping ego then, treat the world kindly. Take up giving. Become compassionate. Practice listening. A little altruism never hurts either. Those are everyday ways of “checking your ego at the door”. But you can go further too. Here’s an everyday example. Jig-saw puzzles. When jig-saw parts blend together they “give up their egos (separateness) completely” to let the whole picture emerge. If the pieces were people, they’d simply see that they were all different parts of one whole. When completely ego-less like that, they’re all parts of each other. Nothing bad happens to the individuals of course. Real people can do this too. Just imagine you and the world are different parts of one whole. If you can do that (takes some training) you’ll realize that guy over there is a different part of you. And? You’ll automatically begin doing those un-selfish things I mentioned above. Why? Because you and he are different parts of each other……and…..chances are you won’t treat YOURSELF badly. Seeing that you and the world are different parts of one whole is the MAX version of “getting rid of your ego”. It’s the full-blown deal that sages talk with reverence about. Most of us will have a hard time getting that far. But everyone can become less selfish. Ciao Alex. John Duffield

By: John Bardos - JetSetCitizen

John Bardos - JetSetCitizen — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 07:57:48 +0000

I can sometimes overreact to situations. I final realized that getting angry at other people just causes more stress for me without really accomplishing anything productive.

In Japan, there is a strong culture of gift giving every time you travel somewhere or at certain times of the year. I used these occasions to buy gifts for cranky neighbors that complained about everything.

My wife and I just kept giving small gifts to people, even if they were jerks to us. Of course, all of our problems stopped and most even started giving gifts back in return. It is really hard to be angry at someone who is always nice to you.

Even if you are correct, give nice and you will likely get nice in return.