How Gratitude Can Change Your Life
If the only prayer you say in your life is ‘thank you,’ that would suffice. - Meister Eckhart
Gratitude means thankfulness, counting your blessings, noticing simple pleasures, and acknowledging everything that you receive. It means learning to live your life as if everything were a miracle, and being aware on a continuous basis of how much you’ve been given. Gratitude shifts your focus from what your life lacks to the abundance that is already present. In addition, behavioral and psychological research has shown the surprising life improvements that can stem from the practice of gratitude. Giving thanks makes people happier and more resilient, it strengthens relationships, it improves health, and it reduces stress.
Research Shows Gratitude Heightens Quality of Life
Two psychologists, Michael McCollough of Southern Methodist University in Dallas, Texas, and Robert Emmons of the University of California at Davis, wrote an article about an experiment they conducted on gratitude and its impact on well-being. The study split several hundred people into three different groups and all of the participants were asked to keep daily diaries. The first group kept a diary of the events that occurred during the day without being told specifically to write about either good or bad things; the second group was told to record their unpleasant experiences; and the last group was instructed to make a daily list of things for which they were grateful. The results of the study indicated that daily gratitude exercises resulted in higher reported levels of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, optimism, and energy. In addition, those in the gratitude group experienced less depression and stress, were more likely to help others, exercised more regularly, and made greater progress toward achieving personal goals.
Dr. Emmons - who has been studying gratitude for almost ten years and is considered by many to be the world’s leading authority on gratitude - is author of the book, “Thanks!: How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier
In addition, Dr. Emmons’ research shows that those who practice gratitude tend to be more creative, bounce back more quickly from adversity, have a stronger immune system, and have stronger social relationships than those who don’t practice gratitude. He further points out that “To say we feel grateful is not to say that everything in our lives is necessarily great. It just means we are aware of our blessings.”
Notice and Appreciate Each Day’s 
Gifts
People tend to take for granted the good that is already present in their lives. There’s a gratitude exercise that instructs that you should imagine losing some of the things that you take for granted, such as your home, your ability to see or hear, your ability to walk, or anything that currently gives you comfort. Then imagine getting each of these things back, one by one, and consider how grateful you would be for each and every one. In addition, you need to start finding joy in the small things instead of holding out for big achievements—such as getting the promotion, having a comfortable nest egg saved up, getting married, having the baby, and so on–before allowing yourself to feel gratitude and joy.
Another way to use giving thanks to appreciate life more fully is to use gratitude to help you put things in their proper perspective. When things don’t go your way, remember that every difficulty carries within it the seeds of an equal or greater benefit. In the face of adversity ask yourself: “What’s good about this?”, “What can I learn from this?”, and “How can I benefit from this?”
There are Many Ways to Practice Gratitude
A common method to develop the practice of gratitude is to keep a gratitude journal, a concept that was made famous by Sarah Ban Breathnach’s book “Simple Abundance Journal of Gratitude
Last year millions of people took the challenge proposed by Will Bowen, a Kansas City minister, to go 21 days without complaining, criticizing, or gossiping. To help condition the participants to stop complaining, they each wore a purple No-Complaint wristband. Several authors in the self-improvement genre have suggested that people do something similar to help condition themselves to be constantly aware of the things in life that they’re grateful for.
A variation of the wristband concept is to create a gratitude charm bracelet, with either one meaningful charm or different charms representing the things you’re most grateful for. For example, you could have a charm shaped like a heart to symbolize your significant other, figurines to represent different family members, an apple to represent health, a dollar sign to symbolize abundance, a charm that represents your current profession or a future career, and maybe a charm that makes you laugh to represent humor and joy.
Conclusion
Once you become oriented toward looking for things to be grateful for, you will find that you begin to appreciate simple pleasures and things that you previously took for granted. Gratitude should not be just a reaction to getting what you want, but an all-the-time gratitude, the kind where you notice the little things and where you constantly look for the good even in unpleasant situations. Today, start bringing gratitude to your experiences, instead of waiting for a positive experience in order to feel grateful; in this way, you’ll be on your way toward becoming a master of gratitude.
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Written by Marelisa Fabrega who blogs at http://abundance-blog.marelisa-online.com.
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49 Comments
June 30th, 2008 at 7:45 am
It may be the most important virtue of all: gratitude. Practicing it alone can transform your life! Thank you,
Todd
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June 30th, 2008 at 9:14 am
Hi Peter,
It is a nice article by Marelisa.
I read somewhere the following:
“I complain about not having shoes until i see a man without legs”.
We should be always thankful to God for all the things blessed on us.
Thank you GOD!
Thanks for sharing this.
Best Wishes,
Kannan Viswagandhi
http://www.growing-self.blogspot.com
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June 30th, 2008 at 10:41 am
“The sun was shining in my eyes, and I could barely see
To do the necessary task that was allotted me.
Resentment of the vivid glow, I started to complain–
When all at once upon the air I heard the blindman’s cane.”
~ Earl Musselman ~
…gratitude!
Wonderful read. I gave it a Digg.
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June 30th, 2008 at 11:25 am
Marelisa,
I would like to show some gratitude by saying thank you for an excellent article. I particularly found your point about a “happiness set-point” to be very interesting. I hadn’t really considered it before, but it is so true that our happiness tends to return to a certain point despite fluctuating up and down.
One simple exercise I like to do is just before I fall asleep I will think of approximately 5 things I am thankful for.
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June 30th, 2008 at 11:37 am
I love your posts. I try to teach as best I can that when people approach their lives from a place of gratitude, that the universe responds by giving more. As a career coach, it is so difficult to convince people of that even though there is evidence all around us.
Thank you,
Mike Edwards
http://www.directyourcareer.com
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June 30th, 2008 at 11:45 am
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June 30th, 2008 at 12:13 pm
I’ve been working really hard on being more grateful. It’s one of my major goals. Thank you so much for this post. I LOVE the idea of a gratitude journal. I think it might be just what I need!
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June 30th, 2008 at 1:01 pm
Thanks Marelisa for your post. I have taken away from it the personal challenge to be grateful more proactively.
Simon
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June 30th, 2008 at 1:01 pm
I love this article.
I think increasing ones gratitude is one of the most important goals of life - unquestionably. Not only does it make us happier, I’d also argue that it makes us have more humility. If we can’t be appreciative for what we have it’s as if we’re declaring we deserve more. It’s great to seek out more, as that’s also part of life. But… Doing so already being really grateful and joyful for what we have now is the way to go, I think.
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June 30th, 2008 at 1:14 pm
I have one of those purple bracelets, and I’m trying to do the 21 days. I thought it would be easy. It’s not!
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June 30th, 2008 at 3:49 pm
What’s great about gratitude is that even on the worst days there is always something to be thankful for, and usually there is more than one thing. No wonder gratitude helps you to be a little happier - you’re focusing on the good in your life even when things aren’t going great.
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June 30th, 2008 at 5:12 pm
Thank you, Marelisa. A wonderful sharing!
Many blessings to you and all you hold dear,
CG
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June 30th, 2008 at 7:04 pm
Talking to others can help, too. They’ll point out things you’ve long since taken for granted! I like the charm bracelet idea; I’d like something tangible to remind me to be grateful on a daily basis.
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June 30th, 2008 at 8:15 pm
@Sara: I know what you mean, like when something goes wrong and you’re being hard on yourself and someone close to you points out all of the things that you did right. Other people can certainly help give you better perspective.
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June 30th, 2008 at 9:26 pm
Mare -
Years ago when I went for the graduate studies at the Penn State, my roommate was a Jewish guy. Everyday after waking up, he touched the earth and his body. Later when I asked, he explained that it’s a way to express gratitude for having another great day on this earth. Your article reminded me his sentence. I really enjoyed the post.
Shilpan
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June 30th, 2008 at 10:50 pm
Hi Marelisa - I love your article - I’ve just been reading about gratitude myself ;=)
I’m making a habit at the moment of feeling grateful all the time for things like the ground I’m walking on and the seat I’m sitting on - hopefully this will raise my vibration enough for me to perform a few more miracles (he he)
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June 30th, 2008 at 11:16 pm
Hi Marelisa,
What a great and well researched post.
I write daily in a gratitude journal. I write little, as well as big things. It keeps me focused and reminds me how truly blessed I am. For me, it makes all the difference in my attitude.
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July 1st, 2008 at 12:14 am
I like the ways you shared practicing Gratitude.
Obviously, feeling of gratitude plays a key role in positive changes of our life.
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July 1st, 2008 at 10:47 am
This is so true Marelisa. On a small level, I experienced this just yesterday. I left for work (I was biking) in a rush, frustrated that I was running late. I ended up stopped at a traffic light longer than expected. So, in general I was just not very grateful by this time. As I rode on, I realized I should really be thankful for the opportunity I have to work, to bike, for my family, etc. My mood instantly changed, and I just felt so much better. And it was all because of the gratitude I envisioned in my life, not the perceived negatives.
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July 1st, 2008 at 11:39 am
Showing gratitude takes so much more than a “Thank you”. True appreciation comes from within and when you truly mean it and feel it, it can definitely have a major positive affect on your life! Great article! Doc KC
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July 1st, 2008 at 3:15 pm
This is a scholarly work Mare. I felt like I was reading one of my college students paper while reading this. I can see how much time and effort you put into this article. Great Job!
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July 4th, 2008 at 12:12 am
Great article!
A small spec of gratitude can indeed change the life for one and all around us.
I’m sure you would like my two cents on the topic as well. Try this out: http://intheorbit.blogspot.com.....kages.html
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July 6th, 2008 at 4:35 am
great article.
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September 26th, 2008 at 5:29 pm
Great article!
Gratitude is such an important topic. We need more good articles such as this one.
Practicing gratitude is one of the easiest and quickest ways to train your brain to think positive. If you think about it, there are always blessings and burdens in life, no matter what the situation is.
By practicing gratitude, your mind becomes focused on the good in your life. And as you know, whatever the mind focuses on, the mind attracts. That’s the law of attraction.
Do you want wealth, health, and happiness? Try thanking the Universe for all the blessings in your life, no matter how small or insignificant, and see what happens.
You need to do this daily, to get into the wealth, health, and happiness groove.
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November 7th, 2008 at 9:15 am
I thought of this poem when I read the importance of GRATITUDE.
i thank you God for most this amazing…
e.e. cummings
i thank You God for most this amazing
day:for the leaping greenly spirits of trees
and a blue true dream of sky;and for everything
which is natural which is infinite which is yes
(i who have died am alive again today,
and this is the sun’s birthday;this is the birth
day of life and love and wings:and of the gay
great happening illimitably earth)
how should tasting touching hearing seeing
breathing any–lifted from the no
of all nothing–human merely being
doubt unimaginable You?
(now the ears of my ears awake and
now the eyes of my eyes are opened)
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November 8th, 2008 at 9:07 am
Thank you for this blog. There are many ways that gratitude can change lives and I am grateful you have shared your thoughts. I have had my life changed by gratitude in so many ways. I am excited to see a new movie like “The Secret” coming out called “The Gratitude Experiment” I just saw the trailer for it. I hope it will discuss many of the thoughts that you have expressed. You should contact them to see if they have room for you to be involved. Any ways, thank you again. K.
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