Today I’m very happy to feature one of my longtime blogging friends, Alex Blackwell. Alex is the founder of the popular blog, The Bridgemaker, and has just released his first book, Saying Yes to Change: 10 Timeless Life Lessons for Creating Positive Change. I have two hard copies of the book to give away, but first I would like to share with you an interview I recently did with Alex:
1. Alex, what led you to write this book?
It’s been a story in the making for the past nine years. In 2003, my life was at a crossroads. On the verge of losing my wife, I decided it was time to change. The spiritual and personal formation seminar I mention early in the book provided the kick start needed.
A few years after attending the seminar, I started The BridgeMaker. It was soon clear that my message, and personal journey, resonated with many readers. So, long answer short, I decided to put my story in one place, a book, to inspire others to begin walking their paths to positive change, too
2. What’s the significance of the book’s title, “Saying Yes to Change”?
Saying Yes to Change is a reminder that the choice to seek positive change belongs to each of us. Except in unfortunate circumstances, we can choose to stay in a place that is toxic, destructive or unfulfilling; or we can chose to break free, seek change and begin the journey to a more rewarding, happier life.
Simply put, we own the choice to say “Yes” to change and I believe that is incredibly empowering.
3. One of the chapters of your book is “Learn to Live Without Asterisks.” What does it mean to live without asterisks?
It’s about not setting on limits on how we think our lives should be. Asterisks are typically associated with limitations, restrictions or conditions. We can get mired down with how we should do something, rather than following our heart.
For example, “I want to write a book, but I should spend more time with my family.” You know what I did? I asked my family. They told me to follow my dream and write. On my last day in this world, I won’t have an asterisk next to the goal of writing a book!
4. You write “Love is a choice”. Can you please elaborate on this?
Here’s a good example Peter: Let’s say you are busy preparing dinner, paying bills or whatever. Your child comes to you and asks for a few moments of your time. You have a choice. You can step away from what you are doing and listen to your child’s needs, or you can keep doing what you are doing.
So, you see? Love is a choice.
5. Your book reveals a lot about your personal life. Why did you feel it was important to be so open and transparent?
The purpose behind my transparent approach is to provide a properly-sized window into my life so others can see their lives in the reflection of the window’s glass. Often we feel like we are alone with our thoughts, feelings or fears. But by being honest with how I feel, may give someone the encouragement to be honest with their feelings, too.
Now, about being too open, before I publish a piece of writing it must pass the Emily test. Emily is my 13-year-old daughter. I consider how she would react to my writing; if it would make her feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, etc. I’m mindful that my book, and blog, is mine and although my family is incredibly supportive, I respect their privacy.
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Please note: I don’t receive any affiliate commission if you buy the book. I’m just doing this because I enjoyed Alex’s book and I think it will benefit anyone wanting to make positive changes to their life.
Alex has kindly offered to send a copy of his book to two readers. To be considered simply leave a comment below recalling a time when you said “Yes” to change.