How Feeling My Pain Released Me From It

"You can’t avoid pain but you can choose to overcome it." - Paulo Coelho Pain. We all have it. It is the residual aching from loss, failure, and betrayal. It is having to live with the mistakes you’ve made, the decisions made by others and the fallout from them. The...

Life Lessons I Learned On My Trip to Hawaii

“Life isn't just to be endured, it's to be enjoyed.” ― Gordon B.Hinckley It wasn’t apparent the moment the Hawaiian Airlines jet touched down on the tarmac at Honolulu International Airport, but it didn’t take many days to realize that Hawaii has a split personality....

How I Changed My Life by Staying Home

Say yes. Live dangerously. Dance like no one's watching. Sound familiar? Get out of your comfort zone. Meet strangers. Make small talk. When are you allowed to leave? An hour? Half an hour? What’s your excuse when you do? Finally, you’re free! You savor the relief,...

The Power of Listening to Your Loved Ones

"One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say." - Bryant H. McGill For a large chunk of the English speaking world, 2016 has been a divisive political year.  Between the Brexit vote in the UK and the American presidential...

How My Father Brought Me Back to Life

“The future turns out to be something that you make instead of find.” - Lewis Lapham I lost my father unexpectedly. My father suffered from a brain aneurysm and passed away immediately. My father was my rock, my world. I was crippled.  He was the only person in my...

How Changing My Location Transformed My Life

It was on my daughter’s third birthday that I decided my life just had to change. At the time, my wife and I had four young children. We were living outside London, and I was commuting into the big city every day to work. Each morning, I would get up while the rest of...

Change is an Acquired Taste

"Any change, even a change for the better, is always accompanied by drawbacks and discomforts." - Arnold Bennett I hate coffee. I hate beer. I hate alcohol. I especially hate bourbon. I hate talking to new people. I hate working hard. I hate studying. I hate time...

How Losing a Job at 50 Boosted My Life

In the film industry where I worked for 20 years, being 50 is not a plus. It’s a business that rewards youth, on screen and behind the scenes. When I lost my job at that age, I anticipated challenges but had no idea how brutal the road ahead would be. I was at a...

How I Chose to Reframe My Failure

“Success is not final. Failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts" - Winston Churchill At 29 years old I found myself broke, living at home (for the third time), unemployed and a failure. I had spent the past two years of my life going through...