Let the World Change Your Life!

Let the World Change Your Life!

It’s nearly impossible to know when you’ll be moved by something; when something will impact you in such a way that you feel inspired and driven to take on the world. It can happen when you least expect it—a movie, a news headline, the sudden death of a loved one—but when it does finally hit you, that spark inside has the power to do great things. When I learned of the death of Natasha Richardson in 2009, I, too, had one of those impactful moments. I couldn’t stop thinking about what had happened to her, after skiing like so many people do each and every day. Thoughts about her family and last moments ran through my mind over again, and no matter what I tried to distract myself with, I couldn’t shake it. Finally, I stopped trying to. I embraced the tragedy that was knocking loudly at my door and decided to let it in and figure out what to do with it. From that point on, my life has changed forever. As I analyzed the connection I felt to this situation, I realized that sudden death approaches us just too quickly, before we have a chance to sort out our problems, to send that thank you note, or to finally have that first kiss. Though I knew I could never recreate those moments for people, I wanted to give them a chance to have something like it. I started collecting letters from strangers, asking them to say something they’ve always wanted to say to someone but never did. I knew that just as Natasha’s family would appreciate having...
Get Connected and Change Your Life

Get Connected and Change Your Life

Have you ever had the experience of doing something better in a group than you would have by yourself?  Have you ever wondered why you stick to a goal with more determination when you’ve announced it to a group of people or, better still, worked toward that goal with those who share your interest and commitment? Human beings are social animals.  We are driven to connect with others, moving beyond our first-tier relationships with members of our family.  Most of us yearn for and seek social affiliations throughout our lives, and when we find or create opportunities that allow for meaningful connections, we often maximize our potential and have brighter, more successful outcomes. In my book, “The Power of Community” and in a recent blog, I wrote about the impressive body of research indicating that social support does wonders for our physical health and emotional wellbeing.  For example, communities and social networks are known to help people recover from addictions, lose weight and stick with an exercise program.  As owner of four CrossFit gyms, I have seen countless individuals who have struggled for years with obesity and accompanying health problems finally change and transform their lives through the human contact and communal support offered by this unique fitness program. So what does this mean for you in practical terms, right now?  If you don’t already belong to a group that enriches your life in some way and pushes you to do your best, you might think about finding one. Three Ways You Can Bring Community Into Your Life Today 1. Sweat More. Join a group workout program.  I’m most...
10 Principles and 1 Practice that Can Change Your Life

10 Principles and 1 Practice that Can Change Your Life

“To be what we are, and to become what we are capable of becoming, is the only end in life.” – Robert Louis Stevenson It took me a long time to realize that I didn’t want to be a personal development coach. At first it seemed to be a perfect fit. I was obsessed with personal development as a topic, and I had a sincere desire to help people change their lives for the better. Over time, though, I realized that I didn’t have what it takes to be a coach – I didn’t have that drive and passion to help people achieve the goals they wanted to achieve (usually to lose weight or make more money). I had other goals in mind, but they weren’t the type of goals that people pay a coach to help them achieve. These were “character goals” – goals that are designed to help people become better individuals. So I gave up coaching and devoted myself to writing, hoping that my message would find a receptive audience. Ten Principles of Personal Development As I mentioned before, I am obsessed with the topic of personal development. I’ve spent a great deal of time, effort, and energy learning all I can about how to optimize the human experience. As I’ve read and listened to the words of the most influential people in the field, I’ve identified 10 common principles that all of these men and women espouse. I call them The Ten Principles of Personal Development. Here they are, in no particular order: I will be loving towards all whom I meet. I will forgive...
How Forgiveness Can Change Your Life…. Starting Now

How Forgiveness Can Change Your Life…. Starting Now

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” – Lewis B. Smedes No, it isn’t some trick and no it isn’t some life changing product. Its something that we all are capable of doing but often choose not to do or choose to hold on to until it begins to consume us. What is it? Forgiveness. It sounds so plain. So plain and overstated that you may want to stop reading, but I urge you to read on. I recently found an undelivered letter I had written to an ex-boyfriend of mine many, many years ago. Within that letter, there was pain, anger and definitely no forgiveness throughout. It was two months after our break up and I still could not let go of the anger I felt toward his actions. I told him that I knew I would be ok in life but that he most likely would not. I told him that he was a liar and a cheat and that his behavior as a person sucked. I held on to the anger for months. I had almost completely moved on from what had happened between the both of us but I still could not fully gain control of a small part of me that was not willing to actually forgive. I told myself I had forgiven him and carried on as if I had forgiven him, but I truly had not. Years later I found myself occasionally thinking back, not of the fond memories but of the moment when I chose to be angry and chose to react with...
30 Tiny Changes for Health, Wealth and Happiness

30 Tiny Changes for Health, Wealth and Happiness

Have you ever started off on some huge project to overhaul your entire life – only to give up after a couple of weeks? Change doesn’t need to be dramatic or all-encompassing. Small, individual changes can lead to new habits, and – eventually – to a much-improved life. They might seem insignificant on their own, but they build up to a powerful force, just like raindrops working away at rocks. Here are 30 tiny changes that you can start on today. If you made just one change every day, you’d be doing them all in a month’s time. How different could your life look in a year? Health We often take our health for granted, and only make changes when we get a real wake-up call. Maybe you’d like to be healthier, but it seems like too much effort. These ten changes are all tiny but significant: Swap one of your daily coffees for a glass of water Park further from work, and walk the last five minutes Eat a piece of fruit with lunch, every day Brush your teeth for two minutes twice a day Switch from 2% to 1% milk Use less salt when you cook – try herbs for flavoring instead Go to bed half an hour earlier and aim for eight hours’ sleep Cut back on alcohol by drinking a lower abv wine or beer Get outside during your lunch hour for a twenty minute walk Swap your regular-sized candy bar for a smaller one Wealth You’d probably like to have more money in the bank. Maybe it’s for a holiday, maybe for an emergency...