How To Build Confidence In Your Appearance Through Self Acceptance

How To Build Confidence In Your Appearance Through Self Acceptance

There is a tendency in much of the literature and information on self esteem and confidence building to overlook the importance – the necessity – of recognising how vital self acceptance is as a part of the process of addressing and overcoming negative self belief. The relevance and importance of self acceptance in successful self esteem and confidence building is quite adequately encapsulated in the old saying “A house built on sand shall not stand”, meaning in this case that you’re far more likely to succeed in building a positive and lasting self belief and self image only after you’ve undergone a rigorously honest self appraisal of who and where you really are in life at the present time. This honest self appraisal, this acceptance of yourself as you really are – warts and all – creates a solid psychological foundation upon which you can start to effectively build your self esteem and a new positive self image. Without it, any program of self esteem and confidence building is inherently flawed because so long as you continue on an ongoing basis to deny the reality – to refuse to accept – certain elements or features of your personality and/or your appearance that you are uncomfortable with, then this denial, this non acceptance, will act as a mental block and will continue to hinder or prevent your self development and growth. This is not to suggest that you should try to force yourself to “like” the things about yourself that you don’t like, but is more about understanding and appreciating that things about yourself that you see as being negative...
How to Build the Confidence Habit

How to Build the Confidence Habit

“If you hear a voice within you say “you cannot paint,” then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.”  – Vincent Van Gogh We are all beset with doubts sometimes. Even the most self-assured and successful people can be unsure of themselves. Some people are clearly more confident than others, though. To what extent this is ‘nature’ and ‘nurture’ is unclear, though I suspect that ‘nurture’ has a lot to do with it. I’ve seen my own confidence wax and wane over the years, and external factors have certainly played a part. Some signs that you might be lacking somewhat in confidence are: Thinking that other people are better than you Expecting the worst outcome Engaging in negative self-talk Feeling the need to justify your behavior to others Overreacting to criticism Not having many friends or avoiding social situations Body language that is defensive and closed. If you have some of these traits, perhaps you need to consider building more confidence. Can this be done? I think it’s clear is that confidence, like most other traits, can be developed. Like a muscle, with training and in time, it can become strong and powerful. To put it another way: confidence is a habit – confidence begets confidence. Here are some training ideas to develop this most important of habits. Make friends with your failings and limitations This is a key area. Obviously, you are not perfect – far from it. So long as you are challenging yourself, stepping out of your comfort zone and seeking to develop, you will be making mistakes. The mistakes are signs of...