Tiny Buddha – An Interview with Lori Deschene (+ Book Giveaway)

Tiny Buddha – An Interview with Lori Deschene (+ Book Giveaway)

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Today I’m very happy to feature Lori Deschene. Lori is the founder of the hugely popular blog, TinyBuddha.com, and she has just released a book called Tiny Buddha: Simple Wisdom for Life’s Hard Questions. I have read the book and can honestly say it’s one of the best books I have read this year – it’s insightful, personal and practical. I have two hard copies of the book to give away, but first I would like to share with you an interview I recently did with Lori:

1. What led you to write this book?

I run Tiny Buddha as a community blog, and I’ve published posts from more than 175 people over the last two years. The posts often explore similar themes—purpose, happiness, change, love, and uncertainty.

I wanted to write this book around those themes, because those are the topics that are relevant to all of us, regardless of our differences. In fact, they’re what unite us. No matter who we are, no matter where we’re from, no matter what religion we follow or what politics we support, we all deal with the same universal challenges.

Much like the community has made the site what it is, readers shaped this book. I started by asking nine questions on Twitter, including: What’s the meaning of life? Do you need money to be happy? How can we live each day to the fullest?

Then I wrote the book around those responses, exploring scientific, psychological, and sociological research to support those ideas and also including stories from my life.

My hope is that Tiny Buddha: Simple Wisdom for Life’s Hard Questions helps readers discover the answers that are right for them individually. There are very few concrete answers in this world; there’s just so much we don’t know. Still, we can live mindful, happy, connected lives based on what we do know.

2. One of the things I love about your book is that it includes your personal story. What has your experience been with being so open about your struggles?

So far, the experience has been rewarding and just plain amazing. It felt liberating to open up about some of my struggles, and to know that I’ve been able to help people not just in spite of them, but also because of them.

3. You devote one chapter of the book to ‘Change’. What advice do you have for people who want to change their life?

My main advice is to develop incredible self-awareness.

That starts with understanding what causes resistance within you. You may be holding on to limiting beliefs about what you can do—or what you should do. These are subconscious ideas that can prevent you from doing things differently, or lead to self-sabotage.

For example, I used to hold a belief that if I showed people who I really was, they would reject me—which meant I shut down around other people for years, despite saying I wanted to develop strong friendships.

It also helps to identify the payoff in staying the same—why you keep doing what you’ve always done even though you say you want something different. It could be that you’re giving in to instant gratification, or it could be something much deeper.

Maybe you’re scared of failing, or rather scared of succeeding. If you understand why you’re resistant, it will be easier to dispute the thoughts that keep you stuck.

Lastly, take it one tiny step at a time—and be sure every day entails at least one. Focus on creating consistency and making progress, not being perfect or achieving a specific outcome. It might not seem like change is happening, but if you take it one step at a time and keep moving forward, even if you stumble occasionally, it is.

4. Blog posts, tweets, status updates….there is no shortage of advice on the Internet. Is all this information really helping people?

I believe it helps us at times and hinders us at others. It all depends on why we’re turning to our gadgets for advice, how willing we are to read and then disconnect to access our own intuition, and whether or not we utilize the two by choosing to act on them.

The web can definitely be overwhelming. But it’s not the overabundance of information that paralyzes us; it’s that we sometimes use it as a crutch to avoid looking within and honoring what we find.

The good news is that in an information-overloaded world, we have abundant opportunities to practice seeking the knowledge we need and then stepping away to reflect and take action.

5. Thanks for the interview Lori! Is there anything else you would like readers of The Change Blog to know?

I’d love to tell readers about the “Life’s Hard Questions” contest, which I’m running until January 15,2012. Anyone can enter by submitting a photo of themselves displaying the hardest question in their life at lifeshardquestions.com.

The winners will be chosen at random, though there will be a special prize for the most creative. The prizes include a Canon DSLR camera, two Kindles, and 10 free copies of my book. It’s just another opportunity for people to get involved and share a little of themselves.

Really, that’s what Tiny Buddha is all about: It’s a place where people come together to share what they’ve learned and learn from each other.

Readers can read more about me and Tiny Buddha: Simple Wisdom for Life’s Hard Questions at http://tinybuddhabook.com.

Thank you Peter!

Book Giveaway

I have two copies of Tiny Buddha: Simple Wisdom for Life’s Hard Questions to give away. If you would like to be eligible to win please leave a comment below, tweet this post or share on Facebook.

Peter Clemens

Peter Clemens is founder of The Change Blog and author of The Possibility of Change books series. Click here to learn more about Peter and his books.

26 Comments

  1. love this blog:)

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  2. Wow, I would LOVE to read this book. It looks wonderful. I also love your blog! This is a great find :)

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  3. I would love to read this book. I’m going to check out the blog now!

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  4. My life has been ever changing since the age of 8 when my parents divorced. I am now in my fifties. Six years ago I lost my son to suicide. I went into a deep depression that lasted three hard years. I will never be the same but this event made me take a good look at my life and made me realize what is really important in life. I just wish I could have figured it out before I lost him. Positive thinking and prayer helped me move forward and still keeps me going today.I am looking forward to reading your book and checking out your blog. Thanks for putting yourself out there and helping others.

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  5. Sounds like a wonderful way to start the new year – the book sounds fabulous!

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  6. Taking tiny steps to achieve change…wonderful advice.

    Thanks for sharing what looks like an insightful, interesting book.

    And thank you for the chance to win a copy.

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  7. Can’t wait to read this book.

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  8. Such a beautiful concept…

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  9. Love this interview and the book sounds great.

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  10. Thank you for this excellent interview iwth Lori Deschene! I’m a supporter and fan of Tiny Buddha and The Change Blog, and this was a fantastic collaboration of inspiration, insight and wisdom.

    I especially love what Lori said shared about self-awareness and progress, not perfection. Those two concepts had a huge impact on my own development and growth.

    The yoga principles abhyasa and vairagya mean, to me, focusing on mindful progress instead of results and I believe in these principles strongly enough I got a tattoo of “abhyasa” and “vairagya” in sanskrit.

    Thanks again for the great interview!

    Chrysta

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  11. Wow, wow, wow. I see many replied wow. And yes it is WOW. I am a great new fan of you and your writings. I too would love to read your book. I so much want to be less complicated and more of a better kinder person. I am sure your book holds many windows of opportunities for me to grow. If i can just break free from all that is holding me back.
    I wish you happy holidays and great success for all your future endeavours.

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  12. I’d love to get a copy. Thanks. Pick me. Pick me! :)

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  13. book sounds great. I’d love to add it to my collection.

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  14. I like everything about Buddha.. Hope can get this book…

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  15. thanks for sharing this. i love Tiny Buddha! Have been following her for a bit. Its awesome.
    Maybe I’ll whip my camera out for that contest…
    :)
    Noch Noch

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  16. I will be getting this book and probably a gift copy too! Thanks for sharing!

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  17. Excited about this giveaway! :D

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  18. This seems like the perfect book for me. I’m in a weird place in my life and can’t seem to get out of it. I definitely fall to my subconscious and believe it may be a reason why I’m afraid to do so many things. I love your blog! The posts have helped me so much. Thank you.

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  19. Peter, I find your blog very useful, and I enjoy the other resources you share with us. Happy holidays!

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  20. Really appreciate from the bottom of my heart!

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  21. I really love the tiny buddha blog. It has helped me to learn and grow through many a post on the site. I hope to get my hands on this book some time soon

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  22. Hi Peter,hi Lori,
    I follow your blogs both for over one year now and I must say you are doing so wonderful! Go ahead!And I would really enjoy getting a special present this christmas :)
    Love
    nicole

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  23. Already, I am very inspired to get Lori’s book and read the chapter on Change. I am particularly intrigued by what Lori mentioned about self awareness and resistance to change. Sometimes I do find myself doing and playing it safe or getting deterred from doing something new. Previously I came across this quote “Growth demands a temporary surrender of security.” by Gail Sheehy in one of your posts and I guess this is really the hardest part of change – the resistance in venturing into new, uncharted waters.

    Thanks once again for your inspiring posts in your blog and for this interview. I have tweeted this post as well. Have a great day!

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  24. Thank you everyone for your excellent comments!

    This is just a quick note to say that the two winners have been selected and contacted. If you didn’t win a copy I encourage you to purchase the book – it really it a great read.

    Peter

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  25. Daily inspiration is so important, Discipline is key to life I think. Discipline of mind, habits, thoughts. Would love to win this book and gain more insights.

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  26. Tiny Buddha is a Life Changing Book..Incredible..kudos to Lori Deschene..i’d love to read the book,and have one..

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