Comments on: Why You’re Staying Where You Are – And How to Move On

By: Tim E

Tim E — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 22:26:46 +0000

As someone who lost 80 pounds, I can’t help but agree with the assertion that actions are thousands of times more powerful than intentions. I feel that the best way to change a habit that’s been giving us trouble for most of our lives is to act before we are ready.

Our minds are constantly giving us reasons why we shouldn’t change negative habits that seem to harmonize with our weaknesses. That is to be expected depending on our personality types and the particular habits that we seek to change. Sometimes, we have to act before our minds have a chance to rationalize inaction in order to affect change.

By: farouk

farouk — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 10:09:11 +0000

thanks for the post:)
educating yourself about the dangers of being where you are can also provide some motivation to kicking of bad habits

By: Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching

Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 18:15:12 +0000

Thanks for this Ali. Another great question I tend to ask myself is what feelings I’m avoiding by doing the habit I’m taking a look at. For me the biggest habit I’ve been working on is retreating into my cave and working too much, and this allows me to avoid having to experience the messiness of relating with people. Recognizing this actually puts things into perspective, because when I seriously think about it that “messiness” doesn’t seem so scary.

By: John

John — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 05:11:19 +0000

Interesting topic, Ali. I currently attend college and reading this post reminded me of the things I definitely have to improve on when I return in the fall. I wasn’t happy with grades I was getting, but I was having a fun time. I realized that was wrong, and I should’ve earned my enjoyment instead of obtain it for free.

Thanks for reminding me to move on and improve on my past failures.

By: Hilary

Hilary — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 08:18:23 +0000

Hi Ali .. good points .. also when we actually do get to do it .. we feel so much better – mind over matter is the trick I think, and that habit forming 21 days .. if you do it for 21 days, then it’s set .. and you’ll have worked yourself so far forward through your challenge that the ‘rest of the change’ is relatively easy.

Mind over matter .. that’s for me!

Go well and hav e a great day ..
Hilary Melton-Butcher
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By: Omar

Omar — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 14:26:56 +0000

I wanted to expand my social circle but I kept frequenting the same places and meeting the same people. I had to go to different social events to meet like minded and interesting people. After awhile enough is enough and I had to drop some people as well. People who were negative. Thanks for the post!