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“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” – Jesus Christ
Do you often find yourself worrying a lot? If so, you are not alone. I used to be a big time worrier.
I would worry constantly about things that would usually never happen. Time and time again it has happened to me.
For example, here are some of the things I would worry about:
- How a visit would go before my company arrived
- If I would get into a car accident before entering into rush hour traffic
- If I would run into someone that I wasn’t on good terms with
I would also worry about “bigger” things like:
- If I was on track with my long-term financial plan
- If I would ever get into the kind of physical shape that I wanted
- If I would ever finally meet my soul mate (which I did by the way!)
You may have noticed that a lot of these bullet points contain the word “if” in them. It is exactly that kind of “what if thinking” that will make you sick.
One day I was browsing the self-help section of a bookstore and noticed a book entitled How To Stop Worrying And Start Living by Dale Carnegie. The title instantly jumped out at me and needless to say I picked up a copy.
It was almost as if Dale himself was speaking to me and will go down as one of my all-time favorite books. I could not put it down.
While all of the points in the book did not apply to me there are some major things that jumped out at me personally. Once I understood and applied these concepts I started to experience a lot more peace and joy in my life.
5 Ways to Stop Worrying
1. Most Things You Worry About Never Happen
I already mentioned this briefly, and ironically it is so true. Just think back to how many things you have worried about that never actually happened.
Hindsight is always 20/20 and you will always see this after the fact. Usually a particular circumstance you are so worried about goes way smoother than you imagined.
And in the small event that something you worry about will happen simply put it into perspective. Ask yourself “What is the worst that can happen?”
Usually it is not that bad and you can prepare yourself for the outcome.
2. Don’t Make Majors Out Of Minors
Sometimes it can be the little things that get you. If you add them all up they can become a huge source of frustration and will occupy a lot of your time.
It could be what you heard a particular person say about you or it could simply be that you lost a piece of ID somewhere. In most cases, here’s a question I frequently ask myself…
Will it really matter in 5 years?
This allows me to really put things into perspective and stop making majors out of minors. Life is too short for that!
3. Take Things One Day At A Time
There is a saying that says yesterday is history and tomorrow is a mystery. Therefore there is no need to worry about what hasn’t happened yet.
Just worry about making it through today and once you see that you can do it you will know you can handle almost anything that comes your way.
Looking too far ahead can be overwhelming.
4. Don’t Worry About What You Cannot Change
Now that we’ve discussed the future let’s talk about the past. Learn to let the past go!
Once something happens it happens. You can learn from it but constantly reliving events really serves no purpose other than to torture you.
If you can’t change something it is best to learn to accept it. Once you accept it you can make the most of the situation.
5. Think Positive Thoughts To Replace The Bad Ones
Out of everything we went over so far this one can take the most discipline. Each time you notice yourself starting to worry unnecessarily try your best to think about something else that it positive.
Over a period of time it will slowly become easier for you to replace a bad habit with a good one. It might not be easy at first and you might not even catch yourself worrying right away.
But eventually if you keep at it you will start to see progress over a period of time. This will help you to become a much stronger person.
You won’t be as uptight and anxious all of the time and you will really enjoy life a lot more. You will appear much more laid back (and cool looking!) and you will feel much more liberated!