Why Is Change So Hard?
I recently wrote a blog post entitled Eating Healthy On a Budget where I talked about how I am carefully selecting what I buy at the grocery store and how I am cooking at home to save money.
I had a bunch of great comments, but one that really stood out to me was a friend who commented that I must have a lot of discipline to follow this plan.
The funny thing is that my friend is a personal finance blogger and he makes plans with his finances all the time. Why not make plans when it comes to what you put in your mouth every day as well?
I would say that this is one of the major reasons why change is so hard for people. They are not following a solid comprehensive plan for their life. They are doing what comes naturally to them, which may or may not be beneficial.
However, there are a number of things that you can do to make positive change come a little easier:
- Survey Your Life – Look at what is currently working for you and what isn’t. Write everything down and separate them into two lists. Now what do you notice? Is one list longer then the other? Do you see any patterns within the list (i.e. you are good with money, but horrible at maintaining your health?) You won’t be able to build a great house until you survey the land. Same goes with your life.
- Make a Blueprint – This is where you take what you discovered in your survey and decide what you will work on. What areas of your life need improvement? What action steps will you take? What kind of positive change would you like to accomplish in your life? Discover what it takes to make that happen and put it into the blueprint.
- Gather Your Materials – What things are going to help you improve? You can also ask yourself what things are hindering you from improving. Is buying a commuter bike sound like a good option? That way you can save money and get exercise at the same time on your way to work? Your blueprint will determine what materials you need to succeed.
- Hire Your Contractors – Who can you enlist to help you? Will your friends, family, and co-workers do? Or do you need to hire the professionals? That all depends on what you are building, but your chances of success go way up if you have help of some kind.
- Get To Building – Nothing is going to happen if you do all the previous steps and stop here. Now that you have a blueprint, the materials, and help you need, there is nothing to it but to do it. The momentum you have gathered this far should help you to get moving on making the change you want to occur happen.
As my friend mentioned, maybe this takes more discipline then I think it does. But I do believe you all have the discipline to get started. Then you build that discipline one little step at a time. One minute, one hour, one day, one week, one month, one year at a time. By starting with a survey of your life, then putting together a plan, and the resources needed to accomplish that plan, you can begin to achieve the positive change that you thought wasn’t possible in this life.
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